Life is tough, marriage is tough…but you don’t need me to tell you that.
You already knew it.
You’re going to win. You’re going to fail. You’re going to inspire…and be inspired. Learn…and then forget.
Some people have a leg up while others have to scratch and climb themselves out of the pain and problems within their marriage.
Marriage isn’t always going to go as planned…and I’ve learned that first hand.
This whole marriage ‘thing’ is more difficult than I thought it would be.
So guess what…
I QUIT!
…listening to other people’s opinions about me.
…doubting myself.
…living my life at less than my potential.
…believing that my wife has to change in order to be happy.
…caring what my friends and family think because they don’t live under my roof.
…wasting my time doing things that don’t benefit my family and the trajectory of my legacy.
…listening to people who are not going in the direction of my dreams.
…looking at the world at surface value.
…limiting my beliefs down to the limited beliefs of those who are unhappy and unsuccessful.
…wanting to fit into a world of constant struggle and disappointment.
…feeling like my marriage is going to end up being another divorce statistic.
…doubting myself.
…putting on a fake facade to impress those who don’t have any bearing on my life.
…trying to convince those who turn their back to me.
…sticking my neck out to save those who don’t really want to be saved, but would rather live in a life of constant struggle and seeking out people to feel sorry for them.
…judging other people for their life choices.
…criticizing the things that I don’t agree with.
…holding back.
…holding onto grudges against those who have hurt or criticized me in the past.
…wanting to prove other people wrong and now I want to simply prove myself right.
…feeling like I’m constantly overwhelmed.
…apologizing for things that I’m not sorry for.
…making excuses as to why I can’t accomplish my goals.
…loathing other people for having and doing what I’m unable to do – yet!
…being my old self.
…BEING A QUITTER!
I QUIT BEING A QUITTER!
The toughest thing that I have ever done is get married and start a family.
This all takes time, money, new skills that I never knew I needed.
But what separates the boys from the men?
PERSISTENCE!
RESILIENCE!
TENACITY!
CONSISTENCY!
In other words, JOIN ME IN QUITTING the unproductive BS that doesn’t serve your wife and family…
And enact the discipline to doing the productive activities that bring value, love, and connection between you and your wife.
And not only that, but it helps to build your legacy for generations to come.
Philip Douthett
