Have you ever felt the weight of your failing marriage pulling you down but found comfort in planning for a future where everything magically falls into place? It’s a deceptive game called “future projecting” that lures you into believing you’re steering your marriage toward renewal when, in reality, you’re stuck in a cycle of frustration.
Many men make the mistake of saying:
Once I finish my schooling, then I can relax.
When I get my finances in order, then I’ll take a vacation.
When I lose the extra weight, then I’ll go for a hike in the mountains.
When that promotion finally comes, then I’ll invest in that program.
Once my credit cards are paid off, I’ll be able to do XYZ.
When my bank account is fuller, then I’ll pursue my purpose in life.
BULLSH!T
Let’s unravel this further. Future projecting is a sly dance that tricks you into thinking you’re making strides in renewing your marriage, offering a momentary escape from the discomfort of facing your current reality. However, that dreamy vision of a revitalized marriage remains elusive until you confront the present challenges.
The hard truth?
This illusion delays the real work needed to mend your marriage. The more you indulge in this psychological trickery, the longer you sidestep the necessary discomfort of addressing your marital challenges.
Believing you’ve got it all figured out, which you obviously don’t, is a fleeting comfort that evaporates as time goes on. Future projecting offers momentary relief, making you think you’re moving forward while avoiding the difficult task of acknowledging your current marital circumstances.
It’s time to liberate yourself from the chains of future projecting in your marriage renewal journey. Step one is recognizing the trap, understanding that genuine progress unfolds in the present, not in vague promises of a future that might never materialize.
Your future marriage deserves the truth and the journey toward authentic progress.