In a past life, I used to do a lot of live calls with prospective clients.
Honestly, most of them were a waste of my time – hence why I don’t do it anymore. There are a couple of other reasons why I stopped doing them but it doesn’t matter for the sake of this conversation.
However…
I did make a lot of friends and land clients which was great, but it ate a lot of my time and took me away from spending time with my wife and children. That goes against the very thing that I stand for.
So yes, I felt like I was living a double life telling clients how to renew their marriage while I was locked in my office staring at a screen for hours on end each day feeling as though my wife was being neglected.
It didn’t feel right.
All of that to say that before any guy scheduled a call with me, he had to first fill out a pre-call form. I asked a series of questions, and one of them was asked in such a way that if he answered in a specific way, I knew his marriage was doomed.
Let’s break it down.
The question I asked on the form was: “How committed are you to resolving the issues within your marriage?”
It’s a simple question with 3 simple answer options…
The third option, if selected, was a dagger to the heart of his marriage. It was a secret trap that I set.
If the unsuspecting bloke choose this option: “I’m only committed if she commits first” – then I would often cancel the call and not waste my precious time.
Any man that chooses that option as his answer is, was, and always will be a leech who really didn’t want help – he just wanted to complain and get his chin scratched while being told: “It’s not your fault, big fella.”
Truth be told, and I don’t have to reach deep into my years of experience to be certain about this, if you’re waiting for your wife to commit to renewing your marriage first, you’re screwed.
And not in the good way.
You have to take up the role as the leader in the renewal process. If she was leading towards saving your marriage, you wouldn’t be here, wouldcha?
So it’s up to you, not her. She’s leading towards divorce, anger, bitterness, more resentment, etc etc etc… Eventually, divorce.
So let’s get started on that leadership role, shall we?
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